Guide on How to Negotiate and Get What You’re Owed
“But the other person said that I was wrong so... I have to give in! I have to compromise!” For my clients, when it comes to negotiating what they are owed, they often believe that to close a deal, they must give in and compromise. But here is the thing, when we are...
A Guide To Leaning in and Trusting Yourself
While in the grocery store the other day, I witnessed a mother and her three-year-old child have a heated battle in the cereal aisle. The child had to have Fruit Loops as opposed to the healthy cereal that the mother was reaching for, and they were not going to go...
Negotiation is Cut-throat. Know Your Worth.
I met my greatest match for negotiation on Craiglist back when I was selling my Fitbit. Prior to listing it, I researched the going rate and market value, and then concluded that I should sell it for $50. Now, I am not one to be haggled! When I say $50, that is a firm...
Being a Control Freak. Is it Hurting Your Business?
How can you determine whether your need to be in control is helping you move forward or hindering you in some way? As a former dominatrix, I know all about being in control! When I was in the “space of the dungeon” with my clients, being in control was necessary. My...
“It was Never About the Toilet Paper”
Armageddon, Trauma and PTSD during a Pandemic I shut off the screen but the headlines suspend in that second, etched in my mind, like the voices of my father and mother who repeatedly insisted I had to perfectly follow their beliefs or I would not be saved when “the...
The Keys to Being a Badass in Business. Inner Dominatrix.
Welcome to the inner dominatrix classroom! Today's lesson is all about badass marketing. There are three components to getting badass marketing in place and all of these need to be rocking to get your marketing message out there and connect with your clients. 1....
When ‘Eating the Frog’ Won’t Work
I am often asked, “Should I be working on my strategy (aka an action plan) or should I be looking at the internal pieces?” There is a synergy between the two, one will affect the other, but there is a point at which one needs to come before the other. So, what do you...
Authenticity is Key to Business Growth
Authenticity. What exactly is authenticity? What does it mean to show up authentically? What does it mean to be present and vulnerable? Are authenticity and vulnerability the same thing, or are they different? Many people think that in order to be authentic they need...
Thriving in a Pandemic: Your Business Will Grow When You Let Go!
To all of those who are claiming to be experts, claiming to know how to market your business and navigate during a pandemic, I have to call bullshit on this! Nobody alive has lived through a pandemic. Yes, we've been through adversities and massive restructurings such...
The ugly side of the spiritually enlightened people
instead of going the distance with it to dig deep, they want the pieces that make them comfortable so they can run around feeling like blissed out bunnies all the time
Black Friday Grinch
If I get one more 'Black Friday' or 'Cyber Monday' deal in my inbox I think I am going to puke! I may have become the Grinch of Black Friday deals. Only instead of stealing the happy Christmas, I want to make all the FOMO (fear of missing out) and crazy...
Being Late, Disrespect & Memories
I sipped on my coffee while mindlessly scrolling through Facebook and I find myself silently laughing over a post that my friend put up. “What are your pet peeves?” She asked Of course, people love to have a chance to vent, so there was a wide range of...
Lest We Forget …. But Maybe We Should
You won't forget the terror, yet you regularly forget that you are whole and perfect the way you are. Each year on the anniversary of something tragic, like 9/11, masses of people recount where they were and how they were impacted. The thing is, we end up...
Sometimes, Being a Damsel in Distress is Okay
It is spring and once again, and my lawn is infested with dandelions. I started out with good intentions of digging them out by hand, going the ‘natural route’ and after 2 weeks of digging for an hour each day, I am waving the white flag and calling in...
Knock! Knock! It’s Forgiveness Calling!
I sat with my coach and I could feel the trigger that was boiling under the surface, to feel the anger and frustration that was not directed at anything in particular yet somehow I also knew that I was just not willing to really see what was there. I can’t...
When is a Shark Bite Good For You?
Allison DeVane steps out on to the floor of the Shark Tank with her beautifully crafted tea/coffee creation that she longs to make the "Starbucks of Tea." While she has incredible passion, an exquisite product and has done quite well for a budding...
“I now pronounce you ….”
If only the marriage of the masculine and the feminine energy could be this clear and defined. If only there was a simple ceremony to align the energies in my body to perfect harmony. Finding the ebb and flow of who is in charge at what time. Alas, no....
Is it a No or is it Just a Slow Yes?
Stienway & Sons had been running a series of ads for some time which featured famous Pianists in the ads. The ads would highlight the success of the artist along with a quote from the same singing the praises of the pianos. One day the ad copywriter...
Are You Settling for a Burger When You Ordered a Steak?
If you say nothing every time you order a steak and settle for the burger - the restaurant will charge you for the steak; and the restaurant is going to continue to bring you a burger. It is easier, faster and cheaper for them. This is not to say that the...
Why I Loved Being a Victim
There was a time in my life that I can honestly say I was very attached to my victim status. I did go through some crap in my life and there are things that I was a victim of, but I am talking about after those actual instances were over and how I lived my life on a...