Your Money Mindset Affects Your Business

Money. Let us get honest, and talk about money for a moment. There are two types of mindsets when it comes to money. Type one, “You just need to think good thoughts and the money will come.” Type two, “You need to hustle all the motherfucking time and then you will...

How to Set Boundaries and Stop Business Losses

Are you treating your prospects like stray cats? Just think about it. When stray cats come along with their sad, pathetic, kind of scrawny bodies, you feel bad and feed them! But as soon as the food is gone, so are they... until tomorrow, when they are hungry again....

Charge What Your Expertise Dictate

Though I realize this is sexist, this message is for the ladies and some of the gay men. Charge what your expertise dictate. I had a conversation with an amazing, super-smart female engineer. She has 25 years of experience and an incredible track record. She told me...

Be Proud of Your Business. You Earned It.

A few years ago, I was working with a former Olympic gold medalist in gymnastics that owned a fitness studio. Obviously, that is a tremendous feat, but interestingly I noticed that she was not using her accomplishment in any of the marketing material. I remember...

Guide on How to Negotiate and Get What You’re Owed

“But the other person said that I was wrong so... I have to give in! I have to compromise!” For my clients, when it comes to negotiating what they are owed, they often believe that to close a deal, they must give in and compromise. But here is the thing, when we are...

A Guide To Leaning in and Trusting Yourself

While in the grocery store the other day, I witnessed a mother and her three-year-old child have a heated battle in the cereal aisle. The child had to have Fruit Loops as opposed to the healthy cereal that the mother was reaching for, and they were not going to go...

Negotiation is Cut-throat. Know Your Worth.

I met my greatest match for negotiation on Craiglist back when I was selling my Fitbit. Prior to listing it, I researched the going rate and market value, and then concluded that I should sell it for $50. Now, I am not one to be haggled! When I say $50, that is a firm...

Being a Control Freak. Is it Hurting Your Business?

How can you determine whether your need to be in control is helping you move forward or hindering you in some way? As a former dominatrix, I know all about being in control! When I was in the “space of the dungeon” with my clients, being in control was necessary. My...

“It was Never About the Toilet Paper”

Armageddon, Trauma and PTSD during a Pandemic I shut off the screen but the headlines suspend in that second, etched in my mind, like the voices of my father and mother who repeatedly insisted I had to perfectly follow their beliefs or I would not be saved when “the...

The Keys to Being a Badass in Business. Inner Dominatrix.

Welcome to the inner dominatrix classroom! Today's lesson is all about badass marketing. There are three components to getting badass marketing in place and all of these need to be rocking to get your marketing message out there and connect with your clients. 1....
“I now pronounce you ….”

“I now pronounce you ….”

If only the marriage of the masculine and the feminine energy could be this clear and defined. If only there was a simple ceremony to align the energies in my body to perfect harmony. Finding the ebb and flow of who is in charge at what time. Alas, no....

Is it a No or is it Just a Slow Yes?

Is it a No or is it Just a Slow Yes?

Stienway & Sons had been running a series of ads for some time which featured famous Pianists in the ads. The ads would highlight the success of the artist along with a quote from the same singing the praises of the pianos. One day the ad copywriter...

Are You Settling for a Burger When You Ordered a Steak?

Are You Settling for a Burger When You Ordered a Steak?

If you say nothing every time you order a steak and settle for the burger - the restaurant will charge you for the steak; and the restaurant is going to continue to bring you a burger. It is easier, faster and cheaper for them. This is not to say that the...

Why I Loved Being a Victim

Why I Loved Being a Victim

There was a time in my life that I can honestly say I was very attached to my victim status. I did go through some crap in my life and there are things that I was a victim of, but I am talking about after those actual instances were over and how I lived my life on a...

Letting Yourself Receive

Letting Yourself Receive

In general, people assume that by being a Dominatrix, it is very easy for you to accept gifts from other people.  By gifts, I mean their adoration, help/assistance, etc.  However, accepting continual service or affection for an hour or more without a break can be...

Tapping into Your Feminine Power

Tapping into Your Feminine Power

What exactly is feminine power?  You hear a lot of people talking about feminine energy or feminine power these days. There seem to be a lot of people, mostly women, talking about stepping into their power.  People are looking for ways to to go bigger and own their...

When Your Prince (or Princess) Becomes a Frog

When Your Prince (or Princess) Becomes a Frog

He’s perfect.  Handsome, charming and a great conversationalist.  They’ve swept you off your feet the perfect food, conversation, attention and sex.  You have become the starring attraction in your own castle.  At least until your castle walls came crumbling down and...

Where’s the Joy?

Where’s the Joy?

Have our lives become so easy that we have lost the joy of the challenges in life? We have things so easy these days in so many ways (at least in the first world countries), that I wonder if we are really doing ourselves a disservice with all of this ease. There is an...

Mila Kunis on Sexism and Gender Bias in the Workplace

Mila Kunis on Sexism and Gender Bias in the Workplace

I am posting this article in full because it resonates so strongly with me - and other women I know.  The message is all too often a reality for us.  May I present: You’ll Never Work In This Town Again… "If this is happening to me, it is happening more aggressively to...

Are you a Rosa Parks?

Are you a Rosa Parks?

Rosa was the black woman who choose to break the law and sit in the “white” section of the bus and although she was arrested her courage was instrumental in change the laws of segregation. Her action was a key component in the Civil Rights Movement. Fast forward to...

The Unicorn and The Goats

The Unicorn and The Goats

I had a fantastic catch up with a friend last night and as she was sharing her frustrations with her networking group it struck me how much she was defaulting to making herself wrong instead of acknowledging her gifts and talents. I have watched her over the years try...

Self-Help: Boost or Trap?

Over the years, I’ve encountered many lines that lead to self-help programs, books and speakers. There is an entire business model built around the idea that there is something wrong with you. I find this frustrating and exasperating. You’re here, on my list – YOU are...

How to Use Your Team

How to Use Your Team

Team (noun, ‘teem’): A number of persons associated in some joint action. Having just hired someone to manage me, I thought I would talk to you about your teams.  We all have physical support in the form of friends, family and coworkers, but we do not always take...

I am HAVING that!

I am HAVING that!

[headline style="2" align="center" headline_tag="h2"] Universe Bring me..... [/headline] When you step into the energy of choosing what you want, and I mean really choosing it then the Universe goes to work to bring it to you. There is a difference between the wanting...

Give up saying “Sorry” if you want to be free!

Give up saying “Sorry” if you want to be free!

There is something so Canadian about saying "sorry" that you may not even notice how it is eroding your self esteem and your ability to go for what you want. It might seem extreme, but look at it. How many times do you say sorry without even thinking about it? Bumping...

This woman changes the world by taking the face off dolls.

This woman changes the world by taking the face off dolls.

I stumbled on this recently and I was so impressed with the story that I had to share it with you. She did not intend to go global with this and although she is not rolling in the dough from it (yet), she is making a huge splash in the world and getting people to...

Why Declaring Your Financial Goals Gets you No Where

Why Declaring Your Financial Goals Gets you No Where

This year I am refusing to answer anyone when they ask me what my financial goals are for 2016.   The thing is that over the years I have noticed that there is a big difference between the fantasy thinking of declaring a financial goal to the world and...

How to get your head out of your Ass!

How to get your head out of your Ass!

Have you ever hit that loop where no matter what you try, how many tools you use you just can’t seem to shake out of the negative thought patterns and lack of flow in your life? I get it and have been there many times myself. In fact just two weeks ago I was there and...

What your kids really want for Christmas!

What your kids really want for Christmas!

This video put on by Ikea touched me and expresses something I have often said about Christmas and families so I could not resist putting it into a blog post for you. I grew up not celebrating Christmas and that gave me a very different outlook on the holiday. I tend...

The surprising thing about being a Dominatrix

The surprising thing about being a Dominatrix

I have wrestled with putting up this post for a while. I have managed to drag my heels for nearly a month with every lame excuse going for why I don't have time to put it up. The truth is that I have been nervous and excited about the possible reactions to this...

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