Some call it letting go of attachment, others call it having faith, no matter the name you give it learning to surrender holds the keys to your desires becoming reality. 

Some resist surrender out of fear. Fear of the unknown, the things we can’t control. 

Some resist surrender because they have succeeded by pushing through and making it happen. Think of Olympic athletes and the successful business people we see on social media. 

But they know something is missing. They are looking for this elusive thing. A thing that they often do not know what to call or even that they are looking. 

But something is missing, something not satisfying about making the next million or billion—something off about that gold medal. 

My name is Dana Pharant, and as a Dominatrix, Sexual High Priestess and former seven-figure CEO, I know all about being a control freak and teaching control addicts how to release and surrender. 

Sometimes, that is in the dungeon with the physical implements to drop you into your body and find the bliss in surrender. 

Sometimes it is on a coaching video call to pull your head out of your ass and back on track with what you really want. 

Sometimes, that is through bodywork, releasing the stuck patterns and trauma stored in your tissues. 

Sometimes, that is through psychedelic ceremonies, holding a safe and sacred space for healing and rewiring your brain. 

No matter the tools, it is always about surrender. 

Surrender is the key. 

When you learn to surrender, your fixation on what you think you want releases so that you can see what you really desire. 

Too often, we get swept up in what we think we want because we see that messaging everywhere, but it is not ours. 

Surrender breaks those influences and brings you back to who you really are at the core. 

You can then become a better leader and a better lover and feel at home in your body, feeling the bliss of just being here now. 

Surrender is NOT 

Selling all your worldly possessions and going off to live in the woods smoking weed all day and doing yoga with the chipmunks. 

First chipmunks are terrible at yoga, and second surrender is not about having to give everything up. 

Surrender is the release of attachment to any outcome so that you can drop into your true calling and hear the universal nudges for where you need to go next. It is easy to have anything you desire because you are working in sync with the most powerful partner you could have (I call that the Universe, but you may call it something else). 

Feeling fully supported and never alone comes with surrender. 

Being able to be a great leader, letting go of your ego and being the leader that is called for comes with surrender. 

For women, learning to have great orgasms comes with surrender. 

For men, learning not to make it about your orgasm allows you to surrender more deeply. 

I’m a dominatrix, and I can tell you it’s not about being a hard ass or confrontational. That’s masculine energy where you take yourself seriously and you push, push, push to make change.

Dominatrix energy is feminine energy—a totally different kind of power. You simply stand and state your position. You don’t try to justify it; you don’t second-guess yourself.

Like the ninja warrior, you are fully present, aware of everything that’s going on. You’re not hyper vigilant waiting for the next attack, so you’re able to move and shift whenever you need to.

You stop pushing and start to follow that amazing intuitive skill that women have to the nth degree. And you know the precise moment when you need to implement.

When you step into your dominatrix energy and surrender into the present moment, you can see the bigger picture and scout out what needs to be done. And that will take your business to an entirely new level of success. You’ll be a superstar, handling everything with ease!